Both staying and leaving

Both staying and leaving

Both staying and leaving are our options, our very personal ones.
People cannot make us stay, they also cannot make us leave, if we do not want to.

Both staying and leaving are based on how we look at things or situations or even people.
They are based on how we perceive our surroundings, on how we feel inside our heart, on what we have in mind.
They are based on our decisions, our thoughts, our permissions.

Both staying and leaving are decisions we need to make once in a while. Sometimes we make it easily, and sometimes we don’t.
Sometimes we make it – to stay or to leave, by looking at our worth, or someone’s worth, or something’s worth. It is easier that way. If they are worthy, then we will stay; if they are not, then we will leave.

Both staying and leaving are our options, our very personal ones. We can choose to stay or leave, we can do whatever we want, and so can other people in our lives.
Both staying and leaving are our options, our very personal ones. We cannot make people stay when they want to leave, we cannot make people do otherwise as well. They decide, not us.
It is fine, this staying-and-leaving stuff, until you have this unique thought or feeling, a weird one called love.

There are times when you let the door open, so wide open as if it welcomes anyone, and yet no one comes in.
There are times when a person finally comes in, greets you kindly, stays there for a moment or two, creating a memory you never thought would  exist.
And there are also times when that person decides that they are not feeling home enough, they are not comfortable enough, they are not connected enough, then they decide to leave, looking for another door.
And there we are looking at the door, wondering what might happen if that person decides to stay instead of leaving.

Often times we look at the door long enough as if we invite the misery ourselves. Often times we wonder about some possible reasons to make that person stay, to fix things, to fix ourselves, to create better impressions, we do everything.
Often times we wonder why that person leaves. Often times we wonder and ask, “are we unworthy?”.

Looking at the door will open our eyes sooner or later. It will tell us that we cannot make someone stay or leave. We cannot make someone do as we wish even if we beg. We simply cannot make someone do what they do not want to do. And here it is, the sad and bitter truth, that person simply wants to leave. That is all. That is the decision. That is the wish.

Both staying and leaving are our options, our very personal ones. We cannot make someone stay just because we want them to, we cannot make them do otherwise as well. All and all, when it comes to stay and leave, any person can choose and decide themselves. No one can influence them. No one can make them.
And about the door, well, no matter how wide you open the door, no one will not come and stay if they decide so. And no matter how narrow you open the door, someone will try to come and possibly stay, if they decide so.
Again, when it comes to stay and leave, it can be very personal, and it is much more connected to the intrinsic factors rather than the extrinsic ones.
At the end, both staying and leaving are the two things we should live with. Over times, we will understand that staying does not always mean happy or healthy and leaving does not always mean bitter and painful.
It all depends on our situation. We need to choose what is best for us at the end. Always.

But, seeing our loved ones choose to stay with us is surely motivating and heartwarming, and seeing our loved ones choose to leave us is surely devastating and heartbreaking.

So, always appreciate those who stay, who choose to, who choose you, even if you do not ask them to. And slowly learn to accept and understand those who leave because they are not for you, they are simply not destined to be in your life, they are destined to come but not to stay, and that is absolutely okay. Accept and move on.

It is indeed, both staying and leaving are our options, our very personal ones. Let us hope that we can always opt for the right options, right things, and surely, right people, who are worth staying or leaving.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s